You Survived Before, So You Will Now

All right you fiery female kicking ass and taking names, here it is. The biggest truth bomb when it comes to failing spectacularly: you WILL survive. 

Seriously. You will.

I know that you’re used to being in control or prefer it. I know that you’ve crossed your t’s and dotted your i’s to prevent that thing from going south or sour. You think of problems from every angle. You have back up plans for days. Except, some stuff, my friend just isn’t in your control AND you ain’t perfect. (Hate to break it to you.) Mistakes are going to happen. It’s all good though — mistakes are growth. 

So, while I know that thing not going quite right is going to sting a little, and it may seem like you’re not going to make it because you’re convinced that the sheer embarrassment, or disappointment, or frustration is going to outright end you, take a deep breath (and a long bath, and a big shot of Patron Silver) and remember tomorrow is still going to be there. Those emotions you’re feeling, those thoughts running around in your noggin’ tellin’ you all kinds of unhelpful things, won’t kill you. They’ll just suck for a while. 

Life may seem so much bigger than you are, but it isn’t. I’m sure you’ve had at least ONE other experience in life where it felt like all hell's breaking loose and you’d never get over it. 

Think about it.

Take a minute and think back over all the years you have lived. When did something else go awry? When did you experience that same level of regret or shame or discouragement? Bring that one event to mind that seemed completely overwhelming.  

Got it?

Good. 

Check in with how it felt right when it happened. Then think about whether you held on to it a week later. A month. A year. Oh, wait. You were around a week later? And a month? A year? 

So you DID survive. How ‘bout that. 

If you survived that part of life, you will survive this one.

But, wait, don’t lose that memory just yet. Keep your mind there. After you got over that first wave of emotion and realized you were going to make it… After there was some time and distance from this hurdle you overcame, do you remember finding some nugget of Truth that went on to later serve you? There must have been something you held on to from that experience if you still remember it now. 

I’m of the belief that absolutely everything that comes your way is meant to teach you about you; that we choose our path before we incarnate. From this belief system, every circumstance you are dealing with and every person you meet (yep even that person) is here to teach you something. The question is what lesson are you learning?

When life seems too steep and failure seems too deep, remember 1) you will survive; 2) there’s a gift there to receive (some kind of lesson), and 3) both mean you’re growing even more into the badass boss babe you are meant to be.   

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